We all yearn for something better and worthwhile in life. We want to be fulfilled in what we do.
Our human nature dictates that we should go out of our way, challenge ourselves and reach for the stars.
You do not have to go far, just recall your childhood and how you experimented with life. You had the burning desire to take the world on. You took risks and tried new things because it is in your nature to challenge yourself.
The reason why you cannot reach your goals is that the desire was extinguished when you grew older and shifted from what came naturally to you. You wanted to fit into the narrow definition of who you should be instead of who you are.
Let us illustrate this with the concept that Dr Wayne Dryer explains so well.
He said that when you squeeze an orange you will always get orange juice. You will not occasionally get an apple or mango juice out of the orange. He asserts that the juice comes out not because it is an orange but because of what is inside.
Your inner strength is your orange juice and the harder you squeeze your talents and abilities, the more authentic you become and the clearer and healthier your identity also become.
Imagine if you had the opportunity to do what you are best at every day how your life would turn out?
Imagine the number of goals you could achieve just by leveraging that which you are good at?
We need to focus on doing things that we are good at and those that we enjoy. Unfortunately, we spend an inordinate amount of time and energy trying to be what we are not.
I realised early in my life that numbers were not my thing and I focused on humanities in my studies, thus emphasizing my strengths.
Thank you that I had parents and teachers who also spotted what I was good at and encouraged me to pursue my strengths instead of trying to whip me into becoming Albert Einstein.
In the book, the Strengths Finder, 2.0, Tom Rath states that “… people who do have the opportunity to focus on their strengths everyday are six times as likely to be engaged in their jobs and more than three times as likely to report having an excellent quality of life in general”
I have seen it in my life and witnessed with my coaching clients that a clear articulation of strengths creates flow in life. You are your strengths, and no one can do a better you than you.
Think about it, people who leverage their strengths can:
- Articulate their distinctiveness and uniqueness that helps them stand out.
- Set goals and increase their chance of success in life.
- Are confident to tackle tasks and challenges due to high level of self-esteem and self-belief.
- Get things done because they know what to focus on.
- Go through challenges and obstacles that life presents from time to time.
Your inner strength is your orange juice and there more you squeeze the more authentic you become.
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Tex Hlalele is a Life & Business Coach, Consultant, Speaker and Author of the book Face the person in the mirror. Book Tex for coaching and speaking engagements to help you and your team gain insights and possibilities for individual learning and organizational advancement. Get in touch by sending an email on email@example.com.
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