Some people achieve much in a day and you might think that they have extra hours than the average person. They get more done and with that continue to push the standards up for the next level of performance.
A few years ago, I was part of a project team tasked with changing processes and systems across the 17 business units of the company I worked for. The team of consultants that were brought in were just phenomenal in terms of their delivery, both in terms of speed and quality. The nature of the project was that in the morning we would have two to three plenary meetings and later in the day we were expected to report back on progress achieved.
I was so impressed with how one lady, in particular, Susan delivered her work. When we were still struggling with item one, she would be on item three and before we knew it she would be preparing for the next assignments while we remained anxious to complete the current tasks.
I gathered the strength to ask her how the heck was she able to get so much done and achieve more.
Here are 5 things that I learned from that conversation that influenced how I approach my life. This assisted me a lot on the road to writing my first book, Face The Person In The Mirror (below tips, are extracts from the book), starting the coaching practice and living an integrated life:
The first two elements are foundational to what we can achieve in life.
- Develop self-awareness.
It starts with identifying aspects of self that are not being acknowledged in awareness. It is about owning up to your shortcomings and not feeling ashamed. It extends to even dealing with unfinished business from your past to go forward. Once you gain self-awareness you stop rationalising and living on excuses. The main goal about self-awareness is for the individual to increase their level of self-acceptance. This can only happen by identifying and working on your strengths and weaknesses.
- Develop a new internal language.
We are who we are because of the way we talk to ourselves. We have formed images of who we are because of how we have internalized how the world sees us. You need to unlearn the old language and learn the new one that communicates your self-worth. The new internal language we have developed should be a catalyst for our new-found self. When we see ourselves as valuable beings communicating the language of self-love, then our behaviour patterns should reflect our identities. Develop the language of self-believe, predicated on “I can do attitude”.
- Know your “to do” and “not to-do list”.
Part of this new-found self-love should be able to help you know your to-do list and your “not to-do list”. We can easily wake up in the morning and blurb what we are going to do. Literature is awash with tips on how to develop your to-do list. This is critical to help us go through our tasks with structure.
Equally important is the ability to develop your “not to-do list”. This is a list of things that you tell yourself that you will not spend time on, because they are not aligned with your purpose and they ruin that which represents your true self. These are things that start small, however, if not curtailed at their elementary level can become the elephant in the room. The “not to-do” list helps you to avoid unnecessary and destructive activities and behaviours so that you can channel your energy in the right direction.
Examples of your not to-do list could include:
- Trying to please every person.
- Trying to do all things at once.
- Spending time with negative people.
- Engaging in destructive activities.
- Carrying hatred and anger.
- Put systems and processes in place.
For whatever you do, you need to put in place systems that run on their own requiring only amendments from time to time. Having templates that can be amended as required saves a lot of time. Organising your files in a way that facilitates easy access helps with quicker delivery. You do not have to do tasks by yourself all the time. You can outsource some activities to people who are best skilled to perform them. If you have a team, you should develop delegation skills to the right people and dedicate your time to other high-value activities.
- Constantly review the areas of your life
Make it a habit to develop a weekly or monthly date with yourself. We are open and willing to have a coffee or dinner with other people, but we hardly date ourselves. As part of this date, look at all the areas of your life and reflect on how each area manifests in your life. You also need to be on the lookout for the time and attention you devote to these areas. Isolate the areas with gaps between your identity and actions and realign to your purpose. This should be done deliberately and with the purpose to turn the corner.
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Tex Hlalele is a Life & Business Coach, Consultant, Speaker and Author of the book Face The Person In The Mirror. Book Tex for coaching and speaking engagements to help you and your team gain insights and possibilities for individual learning and organizational advancement. Get in touch by sending an email to firstname.lastname@example.org. If you found value in this article, please be so kind as to share with those close to you.