Most kids grow up with dreams of their own no matter how farfetched these may seem. As a kid, I promised my father a fleet of buses when I am older and earning lots of money to fill the ocean. A friend of mine had higher dreams than mine. He was going to buy his parents a train with its rail. Whether real or imagined, we all dreamt until an adult or some experiences came along and filled doubt, limiting beliefs and fear into our psyche.
Social media is awash with success and inspirational quotes. On the other hand, YouTube overflows with motivational videos. I sometimes wonder with so much motivation, how many of us take the advice and these ideas into practice. We seem to know what needs to be done but we lack the courage to act and liberate ourselves from the bondage of fear.
When I ask people if they like the jobs that they are doing, most say no. They almost all state that they want something different. When I prompt further on how they are intending to make their lives better, without fail most would rather die than take risks.
Susan Jeffers, the author of Feel the fear and do it anyway, stated that “we fear beginnings, we fear endings, we fear changing, we fear staying stuck, we fear success, we fear failure, we fear living, we fear dying”. It was Franklin Roosevelt who said that “the only thing we have to fear is fear itself”. If we cannot do that, I believe the best proposition is to pack our bags and go rather than die young and be buried at the age of 80 not having lived our lives.
Conquer your fears and move closer to your dreams by following these recommendations:
• Reformat your fear programming by establishing the what and why of your fears in the first place. The idea is to acknowledge and seek solutions not to be problem centred. Your fears reside in the inside and that is where you need to locate their existence. These might be fear of rejection, fear of success, fear of being judged etc.
• Once you know your fears, face them head on by doing exactly that which you fear. When I look at my wife driving today, I ask myself, what other way could she had known how to drive except by driving?
• Have a compelling vision that far surpasses your fears. When I look at my goals and my vision board, I get goose bumps and pinch myself if I will achieve what I have set out to achieve. Anything that looks like a walk in the path is not a dream.
• Reflect and ask yourself, “what do I stand to gain by allowing fear to stand between me and my goals?”. I can bet that if you don’t move you stand to remain mediocre for the rest of your life. You will watch others progressing and say that they are lucky.
• Draw inspiration from your small gains over your fears as you traverse this journey. Take minor steps always keeping in mind what the major gain is on the horizon. If you fear presenting, start by presenting to one or two people and grow your number gradually while you refine your approach from the feedback that you receive.
• Most importantly, realise that you are not the only person who experiences fear. Even people who appear confident experience fear. The only difference is that they persist regardless. Arianne Huffington is on point by saying “being fearless doesn’t mean living a life devoid of fear, but living a life in which one’s fears don’t hold us back”
I say to you feel the fear and do it anyway.
Think Big, Dream Wild & Prosper
Tex Hlalele is a life and business coach and inspirational speaker. Schedule a FREE needs assessment and breakthrough session now with Tex at http://www.dreamsmadepossible.co.za/#coaching-sessions. If you liked this piece, please sign up to receive email correspondence that will come to you once a week