Many people have this false notion that their situations will change someday, courtesy of some magical forces coming together and waaalaaa …….. a better life.
Maybe it’s true to some point. A few people win the lottery and hope that all areas of their lives will operate like an oiled machine. Before you know it, they are back to square one. Others fold their arms and depend on their parents to pave their future with gold. When challenges hit as they eventually do, they remain exposed and not knowing how to navigate life.
I thought about this based on a conversation I had with my friend and fellow home boy recently. His pain point was that he is involved in a family business and he is tired of being used. He claims to be concerned about his wife and kids. He wants to leave the family business to create a better future for his own family because his parents’ family business is not the right vehicle for the future he envisages.
I asked about his plans, to which he indicated that it is where I come in by helping him find a job.
Ok… I listened intently and followed up with a question – what is your strength and which job you are looking for?
We explored potential steps he can initiate, and it became interesting when he suggested that instead of him going to the internet, how about he gives me his mobile number so that I can call him when I come across job postings!
I threw the ball back into his court with reflective questions and I never saw him again as he had promised to come back the next day.
Really? Is this person concerned about creating better life for his family? Unfortunately, my friend is not alone in this problem. This problem goes beyond age, race, gender. It is a human problem that if tackled, the world could be a better place. This happens because most people underestimate the power they have.
Leadership is about taking responsibility for one’s plight and life in general:
Discover your value: Let’s go back to the beginning – people will follow you only when you can follow your own lead. You can do this only when you discover your value. With this discovery, you can hone your gift and share it with the world. Your value should not always be a gigantic action like saving the planet. Small steps and small contributions do count.
Own your pain: Taking responsibility as a leader is about acknowledging and owning your pain. There’s a saying that the pain is only felt by the bearer. No one can understand your pain better than you. You cannot change your situation by folding your arms and expect someone to do it for you. Others will only join you once they see that you are doing something about it.
Breathing life to your dreams: If my friend does not stand up and do something himself, he will go down the grave with his dreams unknown to his wife, kids, his loved ones and the world at large. You have a responsibility not only to yourself but to others.
My friend and many of us have a responsibility to make the world a better place. We are short changing ourselves by playing small.
I believe we should always reflect on the words of Myles Munroe who said:
“Everything rises and falls on leadership. So go the leaders, so goes the nation. So go the leaders, so go the family. So go the leaders, so go our communities. If all of us serve our gifts to the world, we can improve our lives and other’s lives. If all parts work together, then humanity will run like a beautiful auto”
Think Big, Dream & Prosper
Tex Hlalele is a life and career coach and inspirational speaker. He is the author of the book, Face The Person In The Mirror. Book coaching and speaking engagements by calling +27 64 6566174 or visit http://bit.ly/dreamsmadepossible
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