Do Not Stand In Your Way

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“Make sure you’re not sabotaging something that has the potential to be fruitful and great”

Alex Elle

We all imagine that day when all we dreamed of and worked hard on comes to fruition. We cannot wait to see the plans we have getting into shape and ultimately giving us hope and that sense of achievement.

We all know that there is no road to success that is smooth and plain sailing. Life will throw obstacles and curveballs along the way. Frustration and confusion will happen to a point of feeling that you should not have started in the first place.

That is why we need to plan and anticipate obstacles and how we will mitigate them.

In my coaching sessions, I help people identify obstacles that they think may stand in the way of their dreams. In almost all cases, they identify external obstacles and they hardly think of how they may be in the way of their goals, dreams, and aspirations.

Have you ever thought you are close to making your dream come true and before you know it, all things come crumbling down because you did something stupid?

How many business ventures, great relationships, promising career opportunities, great financial future went down the drain because you did something that you could have avoided in the first place?

Of all the obstacles, nothing compares to the one that you create.

In most cases, if not all, these are the obstacles that you have the power to avoid, but still most people build barricades that stand in the way of achieving their dreams.

Here are a few examples of how you stand in your way:

#1.     Procrastination: For many of us, we have a basic psychological preference to focus on what is less important and procrastinate what is more important. Procrastination is the act of putting off something until a future time. If you are a chronic procrastinator, you put everything until the last moment compromising your ability to give the task the adequate attention it deserves.  Nothing will happen until you start. You have to set deadlines and face what you need to do and get it over with.

#2.     Impatience: Do you suffer from a microwave mentality where you cannot wait to see life unfold before you? Do you feel tempted to aid the universe to make your desired future happen now? This means that you are impatient, and you might try to rush your plans, cut corners, or try to manipulate others to expedite your plans. Impatience is nothing but a sign of fear that your plans will not become a reality. The downside is that it creates half-baked solutions in the process. Learn to work on the right plans, put the right support structures, and form good relationships. Back all these by faith to make sure that the right doors will open.  

#3.     Self-interest: Self-interest happens when you pursue your goals without due regard to the interest of others. It takes the view that as long as I am satisfied, I do not care about the next person. People take the work of the team and use it for individual glory. Relationships die because of financial interests that people put before everything else.  Get yourself to understand and appreciate that relationships flourish through interdependence and that not everything under the sun revolves around you and your plans.

#4.      Feeling worthless: When you regard yourself as not being important or useful, you will find no reason to have goals or to be part of a project or initiative that contributes to the advancement of something greater. This is fuelled by the belief that you are incompetent, unappreciated, and unloved by others.  Try to work on learning strategies that increase your self-esteem and confidence levels such as positive self-talk, affirmations and working on your image, among others.

Working on yourself is a continuous process that takes courage to face your fears to become the best version of yourself.

If you are intrigued by the idea of achieving extraordinary results in your life, I invite you to explore coaching with one of our coaches. Drop us an email on

Tex Hlalele is a Life & Business Coach, Consultant, Speaker and Author of the book Face the person in the mirror. Book Tex for coaching and speaking engagements to help you and your team gain insights and possibilities for individual learning and organizational advancement. Get in touch by sending an email on

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