People who are not contented with self will always look for everything under the sun to fill their inner void. They seek attention and pursue fortunes believing that these will bring respect, appreciation, or fame.
Oftentimes, they will go out of their way to accumulate what they believe will fill the emptiness within. Little do they realise that one of the derailers of progress in life is the belief that channelling energy without will close the gap within.
Trying this formula is excruciatingly painful and akin to filling a leaking bucket.
This usually emanates from unchecked resentment, anger and bitterness that has the potential to erode your leadership, both personal and professional.
Unchecked, these will always lurk from the surface in the form of insecurity, smallness and wanting to be right all the time. People who operate from this perspective want to throw their weight around to prove who they are. They constantly need reassurance either by exerting more control on others or through manipulation.
They either seek solace through many relationships, pseudo riches on social media or through the accumulation of material stuff. This is a phenomenon that Brendan Nichols refers to as “looking good, going nowhere syndrome”.
Operating from this position is painful and you know it.
It does not have to remain this way. I guess you are tired of that vicious cycle and you want to bring a stop to it. Until you face the story of your life and face the source of your anger, pain or exaggerated sense of self-importance, the bucket will continue to leak, and you will forever move away from your true leadership.
True and authentic leadership stems from contentment with self.
Once you make peace with the fact that your position, the address or what you drive does not define you, your life will be free from confusion, anxiety, and stress. You need to realise that the presence or the absence of these should not change who you are at your deepest core.
In the words of Mahatma Gandhi, “Man falls from the pursuit of the ideal of plain living and high thinking the moment he wants to multiply his daily wants. Man’s happiness really lies in contentment”
This is not an elusive concept; it is possible to plug the holes in your leaking bucket and live a life of inner peace and contentment. It only comes from within.
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Tex Hlalele is a Life & Business Coach, Consultant, Speaker and Author of the book Face the person in the mirror. Book Tex for coaching and speaking engagements to help you and your team gain insights and possibilities for individual learning and organizational advancement. Get in touch by sending an email on firstname.lastname@example.org.
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